So many people right about sexual purity that it becomes monotonous after a while. Now I'm not saying that I'm not going to talk about chesty, because it's a big deal and it should be reminded, but I will promise that it's not going to be the only thing I talk about.
Purity encompasses so much more than just "don't have sex before marriage"! It also includes things that you don't even think about until you've found that one that you believe you've found "the one". Something that I've come to realize is true not only for me but several others on my campus and we were all so scared to talk about it because we were afraid of judgment! Well, I'm here to not only explain why all of these things are not only ok but GOOD for us, but that there's ABSOLUTELY NO REASON FOR JUDGMENT!
First off, there's a difference between a few kisses and passionately making out. Now some of you may think me a prude for saying that you should save those passionate kisses for marriage, but in the words of my wise mom "if it's a choice between being called a prude or a whore, I'd rather be called a prude.". In other words, you are free to think the way you do but I just hope you consider what I'm about to say. The reason behind saving this for marriage is that in a way you're lying to each other. With your body you're saying, "yes I love you, yes I want to go farther." but you either can't or won't because of what you believe or what's going on around you. Also, I've realized that because woman are made differently we want to give all of our selves to those we love and when we try and then stop, like in this example, it emotionally drains you. My boyfriend and I have been sating for about 8 months now and we've made the mistake of thinking making out was a totally ok thing to do just so long as we didn't take it any father. I realized this as a mistake when I started feeling tiered and like it would be better if we didn't hang out because I knew that we'd do that again and I couldn't stand feeling more and more depressed and bitter. When I talked to him and the girls in my household about this they all agreed that we should cool down the kissing. It was actually his idea to only do "real" (aka on the lips) kisses on special occasions, and my household sisters idea to pray together before and after we hung out.
Not saying that our relationship has pulled a complete 180 and that we don't have difficult moments, far from it. But, it is easier now with those two small changes. We love each other and it's because of that love that we're striving to keep that wedding night special.
“Chastity, or cleanness of heart, holds a glorious and distinguished place among the virtues, because she, alone, enables man to see God; hence Truth itself said, ‘Blessed are the clean of heart, for they shall see God.’”
-- Saint Augustine
-- Saint Augustine
Purity of the mind is the hardest to fight. For now the enemy is with you all the time, you can't run away from your self. But something simple that I and a few people that I know struggle with purity, is pray a Hail Mary or even a decade. I pray until I feel at ease and like the temptation has passed. The devils persistent but he's going to wait until he feels you are at your weakest!
Sorry if I rambled this topic is really important to me.
Be sure of my prayers,
Clara
PS: as always if you have any questions you can comment below or e-mail me at writesolo@gmail.com
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